Tuesday, August 31, 2010

The Answers Trilogy: Grabbed My Balls Like Chuck Norris Said


I'm really struggling to write about Date #7.  With Trucker Joe.  The Date with the answers.  Because.  To be honest.  This situation is novel.  New.  Fresh.  Virgin.  (Never thought I'd find a way to slip that word into this blog did ya?)  Like totally and completely never happened to me before.  And it's tough enough trying to figure out how I feel about everything.  Where I fit into everything?  What is going to happen next?  What is my next move?  Let alone trying to figure out how to say it all.  In truth.  But with style.  And humor.  Because we all know I love the humor.

So here I am.  Pondering.  Thinking.  Attempting to feel it all out.  When it comes to me.  This part.  The uncertainty.  This is not new.  In fact.  This is a recurring problem.  And by problem I mean excuse to talk about Chuck Norris.  So I look back.  To a post I wrote.  Almost at the very beginning of this whole adventure.  The beginning of Something She Dated.  And I ask myself.  WWCND.  What would Chuck Norris Do.  And I tell ya what.  It makes perfect sense.  He'd round-house kick that uncertain Artax-Me out of this universe and I'm saying...my shoulders are feeling lighter already...that bitch was really weighing me down.  (if this part doesn't make sense it's because you didn't read the link...which normally I'm not high pressure about but honestly it'll really help you understand where I'm at.)

So it might not be perfect.  I might forget to mention details and have to come back.  I may say things.  And then change my mind about how I feel about them.  I may have all the answers.  I may only have some of the answers.  I may still have more questions.  I might learn things.  Adapt to things.  Say things I don't mean.  Say things I do mean.  But there ya go.  Because Chuck Norris came to me in a dream last night.  And he said, grow a pair.  So I'm grabbing my balls, boys and girls.  And taking a leap.  There may even be some emotions involved in here.  I'll keep ya posted. 

So just to do a quick recap.  So that everybody is on the ball(s) about Trucker Joe.  Here is the post by post.  The blow by blow.  The lack of touch by lack of kiss if you will.  The confusion before the answers.

1st date Trucker Joe: Fear of the Unknown and Trucker Joe: Date Whisperer 2.0
2nd DateTrucker Joe: What's Missing From This Picture?
The Riddle of the Kiss
3rd date Ask and Ye Shall Recieve (Eventually) (Part Une) and Part Deux
4th date Tuesday. Hot. Sticky. Delicious
5th date Red Lacies...and the Case of the Missing Move (Part One) and Red Lacies...His (Hardy)Boys Solve The Case (Part Two)
6th Date Night at the Drive In: Awesome, Awkward and Answerless


So Sunday rolls around.  And I get a text.  Hey SSD, How's your weekend?  Tuesday night you want to go play pool somewhere?  And I'm thinking.  Major points.  Because I love love love to play pool (though I'm not good).  And I asked him about pool once before and he seemed not so keen.  But alas I was out on the town and didn't want to send a text at like 2am when I got home.  So the next day I responded.  Sounds great.  Count me in.

And then there was Tuesday.  Which was technically still part of my busiest weekend ever.  Having done a movie night Friday, attempt to attend two parties (only made it to one) on Saturday, night on the town with friends on Sunday, Lady Gaga on Monday...and now Tuesday.  Trucker Joe and I have a quick chat on the phone.  We meet at his place.  He drives.  We go shoot pool.

While playing pool I notice something.  We have spent a great deal of our time side by side looking foward.  While walking on the beach.  Watching movies.  At the Drive In.  Not that this is crazy weird.  But I notice this because though I had noticed his smile before.  I really notice it now.  Every time I smile at him.  And he smiles back.  Makes me smile again.  The whole night is one big merry-go-round of smiles.  Which is good.  Because I didn't play very well.  He played well above what I was expecting.  I can't lie.  It was a huge turn on.  I may not have mentioned it before.  But he has really nice forearms.  I know I know.  A weird thing to be attracted by.  But they're muscley.  And manly.  They're grown up forearms.  Forearms that could carry shit.  Just Sayin'.  Though in the end.  With a couple chance shots here and there.  I win a game or two.  I managed to come out the victor.  He assured me we would have to have a re-match. 

We laugh.  We're having fun.  But there's no touching.  Still not touching.  I mean christ.  I'm not even sure he checks out my boobs when I bend over to make a shot.  I actually think it's entirely possible he doesn't.  This is a novel situation.  Is he just really covert with the glances?  Does he really just never check me out? 

We leave.  Go back to his place.  I'm feeling a bit weird.  I don't know what is going on.  Should I stay?  He indicates I should.  Okay.  I think.  But fuck me.  I think it's time I grew some balls and just fucking asked what was going on?  The TV is on.  We're watching it.  And by we.  I mean him.  As I'm clearly sitting there having this exact conversation with myself.

Fucking say something!
Ask him.  Just say it.  Just fucking say something.
Why don't you ever touch me?  What is the deal?  Am I bad kisser?  Have you decided I'm not hot?
Do your balls hurt when you get turned out?  Do you just have no sex drive or something?
Are you not attracted to me?  Has something changed since we made out?
Ask him.  Just say it.  Just fucking say something.
Grab some balls bitch!  Man the fuck up!
You CANNOT have another date without finding out the answers to this. 
Say SOMETHING!!!!!!

And then I do.  After about 10 mintues.  I turn and look at him.  Grab my balls like Chuck Norris would have wanted.  And I say it.  So...uh...this is really embarassing but why don't you ever touch me?....like I understand if your balls hurt and you don't want to have sex and all that...but like...you never touch me...there's no kissing...I mean except for the hugs at the end of the night...there's like no physical contact whatsoever.

And the thing is.  I knew as soon as I started.  As soon as I turned to him.  As soon as I started asking.  That he knew what was coming.  And honestly it was a relief.  To know that at least.  I wasn't alone.  In being totally aware of the lack of touching.  That I wasn't a total floozy for thinking it weird that we hadn't done more, gone further by now.  But the relief disappeared quickly.  Because immediately I'm thinking.  Shit.  If he's aware of this.  Then obviously there's a reason.  An answer.  To all my confusion.  To all my questions.  And I'm guessing.  It's not going to be great.  I'm guessing.  It's Not.  Going to be.  Total Awesome Sauce.


To Be Continued...

Monday, August 30, 2010

He's An (oxy)Moron: The Indecisive Lawyer

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Thursday, August 26, 2010

Night At The Drive In: Awesome, Awkward and Answerless

When I last left you guys...I had just texted Trucker Joe back.  Sorry I missed your call. Tuesday sounds great :)  So it looked like we were going to the drive in.  Date #6.  Awesome.




So as days usually do, Tuesday rolled around.  I met up with Trucker Joe and we headed to the Drive In.  This was the first time he really got to learn about my "Rule Following" tendencies (I casually informed him that he might want to hide his coffee a smidge since being the geek I am...I already read all the FAQs for the Drive In...and bringing in your own shit was a definite no no).  Not that I'm above smuggling in chocolate etc. into a regular over-priced theatre but I'm pretty sure the Drive In.  Is not a too big to fail situation.  And that is when the bag guy sidled on up to my window.

Detour.  So here's the thing of the thing.  I don't like things that touch me unexpectedly.  This is my catch phrase.  People usually hear it first when they ask me if I like animals.  It actually comes up pretty often because for some reason these animals generally can't sense this.  So they touch me unexpectedly.  Inappropriately.  They migrate towards me.  Just Sayin'.  This statement however, also applies to boys hitting on me...and that other category.  Of guys.  Who just like.  To talk.  To me.  Even though I'm weird and awkward so you'd think they wouldn't want to.  But something about my eyes.  Or my mannerisms seems to send the message.  That I care.  And you should continue.  Go ahead fella, keep talking, I'm interested.

Back on Track.  So the bag guy (aptly nicknamed) hands me a bag for garbage and proceeds to ramble on about Drive In movie related things.  Awkward.  Speaking of awkward. 

Detour.  Have I ever mentioned how awkward and spastic I am?  Well I'm doing it now.  Now I will admit.  It's not all the time.  I mean.  I can play team sports successfully.  And I'm pretty awesome at badminton (don't judge me, I was at the provincials every year in highschool).  But in everyday life.  I can be.  Pretty fucking clumsy.  Mega Love and I used to have a running joke that I was kind of like a big bear.  A cute cuddly plush bear.  But still.  Grizzly stature.  Knocking shit over with every movement.  And sometimes I swear I can almost hear that sound.  That bears make.  Like a growl.  A little bit like a confused rumble.  But also like a Whoopsies Did I just knock that hunter over? *puts bear paws up to mouth* hmmm?

Back On Track.  (I swear there is a tie in coming).  So yeah.  Speaking of awkward.  The day before our date.  I had been sitting at my desk.  Writing or something.  And I was leaning back in my chair.  When all of a sudden.  The back snapped off.  I fall back tumbling feet over ass.  Awesome.  I look around in fear.  Alas.  I am alone.  Nobody saw nobody saw.  Fuck me that hurt.  My ass.  Hit the ground like a rock.  Tail bone imprint in the carpet.  (here's the tie in).  So that night.  While getting ready for my date.  Slipping the Red Lacies on.  I happen to glance in the mirror.  And what should be staring back at me.  But the hugest bruise on my ass.  Now this probably isn't really that relevant.  To the date.  Because *spoiler alert* no red lacies were ever touched.  Let alone taken off to reveal the battle scars with a chair and the floor.  But sometimes.  A story is just too ridiculous not to tell.  And I feel it reveals some things about me.  Some things you might not otherwise get to see, as readers.  So yeah.  This is me opening up about how awkward and clumsy awesome I am.

So we park.  We get snacks.  A chick compliments my dress.  And this is where I really start thinking.  About Trucker Joe.  And Me.  And the lack of compliments.  And the lack of touching.  Like where is the hand holding?  Where is the let's go this way touch on the small of my back?  Where is the lean in and whisper?  Where is the You look beautiful tonight?  Where is the I want to fuck you senseless and do all kinds of ridiculously awesome and delcious things with you?  Just Sayin'. 

But then it's back in the truck and we're watching the movie.  Which for reference turns out to be fucking unbelievably hilarious.  Like maybe-I-should-roll-up-my-window-because-I'm-concerned-my-endless-laughter-might-annoy-that-carload-next-to-us kind of hilarious.  The Other Guys.  Gets the SSDated seal of approval.  For sure.  Though I will say this one thing.  I find.  With certain movies.  You have to watch it with someone.  Like Anchorman.  I watched it once.  By myself.  And it was...meh.  But then Mega Love and I watched it.  And I practically died laughing.  Not to mention the inside jokes going on forever.  The back and forth.  The witty banter.  Jew eat that cat poop!  Jew at that cat poop right now!  So yeah.  The Other Guys.  Awesome Sauce.

It was so good I almost didn't notice that we were at a sexy drive in movie theatre and not making out.  Salt, the 2nd movie,  on the other hand.  Was not nearly good enough for me not to notice.  And it wasn't even just the wanting to make out.  It was the why the fuck aren't we making out.  That really bothered me most.  The sitting there.  Thinking.  Ask him.  Say something.  What.  The.  Fuck.

But I didn't.  Say anything that is.  Because I'm awkward like that.  And nervous.  And in keeping with the spirit of "being breezy" this summer...honestly I didn't want to seem critical.  And this silence of mine.  And technically his.  Since he was giving me no fucking glimpse into what was going on.  Kept up back at his place.  Watching TV.  Just hanging out.  No touching.  No kissing.  No fucking clue.

We chatted.  He asked about what schools I'm thinking of applying to.  I told him I hadn't narrowed it down that much yet.  I'm still at the which state do I want to live in stage.  We looked up some schools.  We googled some shit.  I showed him some funny videos.  We had some chuckles.  And eventually.  I was like.  I gotta go.  And so he walked me to my car.  And then there was that hug.  And the waiting.  To make sure I'm all good.  And I went home.  Confused.  A little frustrated.  But mostly just stumped.  Because we all know my love of rationale.  Reasons and explanations.  Science and Dating.  Basically.  I like answers.  I like shit settled.  I like to know what's going on.  But tonight.  Tonight.  Tonight.  I would go home confused.


Monday, August 23, 2010

Washing Intructions: My Warning Label



I should come with a warning label.  Like a silk shirt.  Dry clean only.  Or a 100% cotton dress.  Cold wash only.  Lay flat to dry.  Except that mine would say things like.  Impatient.  Respond to text messages immediately.  Irrational.  Doesn't respond well to being turned down for plans (even if you have a good reason).  Child-like.  Handle with care.  Just Sayin'.

So I was recently thinking.  About Trucker Joe.  And I was thinking.  How hard I've been on him (in my mind) for it not being more obvious that he's into me (btw I know I'm retarded and simply by continuing to call that should be clear but well...see irrational warning label above).  Anyway.  And I got to thinking about how he might be feeling.  About me.  And what I think.  About him.  Because the thing of the thing is.  Except for the first text message.  I've never texted first.  My texts and/or calls.  Have always been in response, in reply.  And I've never been the one to ask about hanging out.  Sure I've always said yes when he's asked.  And frankly that's because his weekends are usually during the week and thus I'm free. 

And I was out for coffee with a friend.  And I mentioned this.  And I mentioned how this week, he only had 4 days scheduled.  AKA would be off on Saturday night.  And she was like.  So ask him out then.  But I was hesitant.  Because I can be irrational.  And I can be very quick to feel jilted.  And asking someone out for a Saturday night.  That has big jilting potential.  Plus I thought.  What am I going to do.  Ask him out and then be like.  Uh...but we'll hang out at your place alright?  Nope.  No good.  So we brainstormed.  And thus the idea of the Drive-In was born.

Reasons the Drive In Would Be Total Awesome Sauce
1.  It's in the city he lives in
2.  I can drive over to his place and then we could take his truck (could that BE any sexier...a summer night at the drive in, in a pickup truck??? Just Sayin')
3.  After the movie we could always just go back to his place (afterall my car would be there)
4.  Um...hello...sexy!?!?
5.  Movies are awesome.  Movies outdoors in the summer at the epitome of awesome.
6.  He had actually mentioned it on our first date (finally I can score points for remembering something)
7.  I would definitely get an A for effort.

But it's Tuesday.  So I can't text yet.  And then Wednesday rolls around.  But I don't want to seem too eager.  Yet, I do need to do it soon.  Because I don't want him to make other plans for Saturday.  So I wait.  Till at night.  And then I text.

Me:  Hey Trucker Joe, Hope you're having a good day. I was just wondering what you're up to on saturday?

Trucker Joe:  Hey SSD :) my day was good. I'm supposed to be playing poker but it's not for sure yet. What's up??

Me:  Gotcha. Well no biggie, just thought maybe we could go to the Drive In.

Trucker Joe:  Can I give you an answer Friday??? Friend's Name (his closest friend btw) is home then and I'll know for sure what his plans are. The Drive in sounds like fun :)!

Me:  Sure that's fine. (very uncharacteristic of me...you know I like to have my weekends planned out well in advance and really hate the idea that a boy could screw me by being like no, sorry I can't and then not having saturday night plans...but I'm trying to be less...well...like that lol!)

So manage to not be totally schizo.  And I wait like a good little girl.  Till Friday rolls around.  And he calls.  I miss it.  It goes to voicemail.  The message is a bit lame at first (could he be nervous?).  But then he gets to it.  Saturday's a no can do.  He got called in for another shift on Sunday.  But he would LOVE to go the Drive In with me on Tuesday if I'm free.
 
And I can't lie.  I may.  MAY.  Have done a bit of crazy-chick-freaking-out.  But like always.  I contain the crazy.  I NEVER show them the crazy.  Keep the crazy to myself.  And my friends.  And I mostly blame PlentyOfFish.  Because they have this stupid feature.  That shows you.  When someone who's messaged you, or you've messaged is online.  And so every so often I've seen him online (in the last couple of weeks).  And it's total hypocrisy.  Because if I can see him online.  I'm obviously online.  And I know we're free to see other people.  But the thing is.  I don't want to be reminded of it.

Dear PlentyOfFish.com Operator,

Please install an "opt-out" button for online status alerting.  You may entitle it, "we're already dating though not exclusive which I'm fine with but I don't need to see when they're online prowling".  Thanks a ton.

XOXOX
Awesome Fish

So back to the crazy regarding this Saturday and his unavailability.  The thing is though.  As I write this.  I'm no longer spinning.  I'm breezy.  And calm.  And chilled.  Frankly I blame hormones for the hysteria.  Just Sayin'.  But the reason I mention this is that instead of trying to recreate the level of crazy and momentary hysteria for you guys from memory.  I've decided to just include part of an email I sent to a friend.  At the moment.  So yeah.  Sorry for any duplication of what I've already said.


So my thoughts are several fold

- yes I know he can get called into work so that COULD be totally legit...but how did it go from possibly busy with poker to can't because of work??? except that if it was something like a date with another chick or something wouldn't he just stick with "poker" and like why bother making up something else...which I guess makes sunday believable



- but then I'm like okay...so he worked W, T, Fr, and he'll work Sat, & called in for Sun...so I'm like...probably not working monday then right? so why not monday night...which by the way I know is insane that I'm suddenly like...!!! We have to hang out the first night he gets off work and not the second (hysterical voice)!!!...and I don't even know why I'm spinning like this...


okay actually that's not true...reasons for spinning are also several fold (TMI Warning - aside from female approaching lady time hormones)


- I'm freaking out a bit because I AM actually a jealous person...BUT...and here's what made me think I could be not exclusive and have it be no big deal...as long as I'm important and/or number 1...I don't care if he's dating other chicks....but how would I even know if I'm number one you ask? well because he would always make time for me...aka...I think this is why I'm freaking out....because part of me doesn't believe the sunday biz...(though I think I probably should)

- oh and for reference...no...he has not given ANY indication that he's even dating other chicks...the only cause for suspicion I have is 1. plentyoffish is retarded and tells you when someone you've messaged/has messaged you is online (if only they had a button for like...yeah...we're dating but not exclusive yet so no need to tell me he's on browsing for other chicks button) (and ps I know it would be totally hypocritical to be pissed because if I can see he's online I'm obviously online as well and there ya go). The only other indication is that we always seem to hang out on monday or tuesday night...(again hence why saturday appears so important to me)...but as I'm typing I realize how crazy this seems because duh those are likely his days off and thus has time to hang out....


- also this makes me feel a bit jilted because it's the only time I've asked him out


- it also concerns me a bit how illogical/jilted I feel and thus makes me think I might be in over my head thinking I could be "not exclusive" yet actually dating (as opposed to just booty call or something) with someone...urgh...


So yes.  I aware I was totally spinning and flipping out.  And I'm back to normal now.  Thanks in huge part to her advice back to me and ice-cream with TheHell.  And the thing about advice.  Is sometimes it can be the simplest thing.  But the simplest thing that you never even considered.  And that's what it was.  Things that hadn't even occured to me.

Now as far as TJ, maybe he saw the Dr and got some meds and wants to give good measure to make sure his junk is working? I know Id be pretty embarrased about that and kinda wanting to wait it out.


I dont think its another chick. Your guys dates usually last pretty late right? Maybe poker would have ended sooner, or its just easier to say bye to his buddies for work instead of a girl hes interested in? It doesnt seem shady to me.

So I texted him back.  Sorry I missed your call.  Tuesday sounds great :) 

Friday, August 20, 2010

Love Is: My House On Faculty Row

People have been asking me a lot lately.  If Mega Love proposed.  Right now.  Would I say yes?  And the answer is no.  Not a chance.  No hesitation.  Uh-uh.  Nope.  Nope.  *head shake*   No.  Because the thing is.  I don't want a boyfriend.  I definitely don't want a husband.  Right now.  I just want fun.  Breezy.  Fun.

Dating is fun right now.  Exciting and nerve-racking.  Like sour candy.  Caught in your cheeks.  Delicious.  Torture.  Bliss.  It's up.  It's down.  It's novel and I'm learning.  Learning about myself.  About boys.  About other people and their lives.  By comparison to mine.  From their vantage point looking in.  From my vantage point looking out.  It's kind of like shopping.  Can I help you, Miss?  No thanks, I'm just browsing.  And right now.  This very moment.  I wouldn't trade it for the world.  Because honestly.  I'm having the time of my life.  I'm being honest.  And selfish.  And I'm totally okay with that.

Being selfish I mean.  Because I don't want to think about anyone else.  Have to look after anyone else.  Have to worry about anyone else.  Because for the first time in 16 years.  I feel good.  I mean really really good.  Like I'm finally not broken anymore.  Like after 16 years of a sadness that shakes you.  Takes your breath away.  Taints everything.  Poisons everything.  Is everywhere and in everything.  Suck.  Suck.  Sucking every last drop of hope and joy out of you.  It finally ends.  And now.  I get to be happy.  I mean really happy.

So you can understand can't you?  How I wouldn't want to risk it.  Risk this happiness.  On something.  On someone.  I mean sure.  In the future.  Possibly.  But not right now.  Not when it's all still so fresh.  So new.  Still such totally uncharted waters.  And I'm not hiding from love or anything.  I've got tons of love surrounding me right now.  An amazing family.  Wonderful friends.  Life is beautiful.  And one day.  One day.  I'll consider it.  Consider a future of team effort.

But right now I think.  I feel.  Like it's quite likely I won't ever want to get married.  Won't ever want to have babies.  Sure.  The idea of baking up some little minions that are part me and part someone I love.  That sounds amazing.  Creating a life.  Growing something inside my belly.  Sure that'd be cool.  Really cool though.  Would be raising them.  Raising them how I want.  Teaching them things.  Giving them room to learn how to learn.  Showing them the world.  Watching them grow their dreams.  Loving them.  Helping them.  Growing old with them.  But that's a lot of responsbility.  And I don't even like the idea of having a pet.

Because in the life I picture for myself.  I live in some fancy professor housing.  On a university campus.  Of which I'm sure only exists in movies I watched as a child.  But nonetheless.  I'm living there.  And my life is gorgeous with Academia.  And writing.  Travel and friends.  Love.  Love.  Love.  I do what I want.  When I want.  And then I play with other people's kids.  And get to go home when I'm done.  Quirky Auntie SSD.  She always tells the best stories.  And has the best snacks.  Took me for the morning after pill when I couldn't tell my mom.  Listened when my dad and I were fighting.  Told me how he was just looking out for me.  Talks about equality and kindness.  Talks about doing the right thing and figuring out what that is for myself.  She believes me when I say I'm going to change the world.  Says she'll help me.  Says she'll always be there for me.  She makes me feel loved.  And safe.  Like the world will be okay for me.  Because she's out there.  Waiting for me.

But even then.  I think about love.  And how one day.  That might be something I really crave.  Really desire.  Because I can imagine it feels good.  For someone to know you.  To really know someone. 

Their favorite constellation. 
The salad dressing they use on Sundays
The way your head feels resting in their hands
The shape of their ice cubes
The shape of their ice cubes
One day.  I'll want to know someone.  So well.  That I know the shape of his ice cubes.

But not today.  Because today.  There are 3 weeks left till school starts back up.  And I know what my dreams are.  And falling in love.  And knowing someone.  Aren't on that list.  Studying.  Learning.  Taking care of myself.  Getting good grades.  Like really good grades.  Higher than ever before.  Slaying the GRE.  Getting into Grad School.  Those are my dreams.  Those are my cake.  And the rest.  The rest is just icing. 

Thursday, August 19, 2010

Red Lacies...His (Hardy) Boys Solve The Case

So when I last left you.  I was at Trucker Joe's.  On our 5th Date.  We had finished watching Gran Torino.  And now.  At 1am.  We're just sitting on the couch.  Talking.  And then he turned to me and said....

So I really want to make a move.  But.  I have something embarassing to tell you.

Whoa.  Fuck.  My mind is racing.  The following possibilities run through my mind in rapid succession.

1. He's dating another chick, they're exclusive and he can't see me anymore...
2. He has VD...
3. He has ED...
4. He's really just not attracted to me...
5. He's actually still married...
6. He's tired and lame and just wants me to go home already...


Now I know you all really like Trucker Joe.  Are rooting for Trucker Joe.  And that's why I really feel the need to stop.  Before I go any further.  And preface this by saying.  That all boys are retarded in general.  Basically.  They're all 12 years old and never grow up.  And I'm not even just saying this.  To defend Trucker Joe.  Because he is not the first boy.  Who was retarded.  In this field of...er...expertise. 

So obviously my head is spinning at this point.  I'm sure I looked like a deer caught in the headlights coupled with a concerned mother worried about a little kid.  So I can't really remember exactly what he said to me.  But here's the gist of it.  Try not to throw him out with the bath water just yet.

- his "boys" are killing him

- his friend (read: not a doctor, not even likely someone smart) told him to try these testosterone patches to ya know...amp his manhood up

- he stopped using them a little while back

- he's making a doc appointment to get it checked out

- HE WOULD REALLY LIKE TO MAKE A MOVE

- but he's basically incapacitated in that way right now
 
 
Oh Trucker Joe.  *shakes head*  But I mean.  What are ya gonna do right?  Fuckin' Boys eh?  I'm just hoping this is a case of I-want-to-make-my-dick-super-human and not my-dick-doesn't-really-work-that-great ya know?  So I stayed for a bit longer.  Chatted for a bit longer.  Brought the laughter back.  And then.  Being that it was about 2am and I knew there'd be no sexy behavior occuring.  I called it a night.  Again, he walked me to my car.  Hugged me goodbye.  And waited while I drove away.
 
And at first I'm kind of like.  Okay well I get the not heavy-gettin'-it-on.  But man.  At least there could have been some hand holding.  Or making out.  Or at least a kiss goodbye.  But if he'd held my hand he'd have had to tell me then so it didn't go further and it probably took him those two movies to get up enough courage to spill it.  And the making out.  Well.  I'm guessing same thing.  Plus maybe getting aroused makes his (hardy) boys hurt more.  Who knows?  The kiss goodbye...I guess maybe he was just still super embarassed.  Who knows.  Best not think too deeply on it.  For now. 
 
But what I do know is this.  Though I hadn't actually decided if we would be sleeping together yet.  I still wore the red lacies that night.  And they were frustrated.  Good natured and understanding.  But still.  Frustrated.  By this new development.
 
 
My undies are definitely disappointed.  I said.
They won't be for long.  He said with certainty.

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Red Lacies...And The Case Of The Missing Move



Police Officer:  So you say ma'am.  That the move went missing somewhere around your 5th date?


SSD:  That's right officer.  It was there on the 4th date.  Hot and heavy like dontcha know.  And then on the 5th date.  It was just gone.  No where to be seen.


And like seriously.  I was stumped.  Until he explained it.  Embarassed.  Awkward.  A boy.  I mean really.  Aren't they all just 12 year old boys on the inside.  I feel like this is a flashpoint episode.  Where they show you the pinnacle moment.  The flashpoint.  At the beginning of the show.  And then super-speed rewind to the beginning.  And show you how it got to that exact moment.  So this is like that.



Super Speed Rewind.



So I can't lie.  After driving home from my visit with Mega Love.  I was hoping to have a text message or a call from Trucker Joe.  I mean.  We had this amazing date on Tuesday.  And it was now Friday.  And I hadn't heard anything.  Which isn't uncommon.  Because we don't really do much talking in between dates.  And yet.  Every week.  He makes plans.  For a date.  On one of his days off.  So I shouldn't have been insecure.  And I'm not sure I was.  But I was definitely excited? anxious? impatient? something.

But before I really have time to let any of that grab ahold of me.  He texts.  Saturday morning.  And we make plans for Monday.  And then Monday rolls around and he asks what time is good for [me]?  And I say 730 or 8ish?  And then it gets.  Well.  Er.  Um.  Unsatisfactory.  I'll come out there this time, so you'll have to decide.

SCREEEEEEEEEECH!!!! Wait...Hold up...Wha?!?!

See the thing is.  I don't live alone.  I've told you all this before.  He knows this.  Plus.  No lie.  I live in kind of a small town.  So I really don't like to have people in my "area" and then add to that, the fact that it was raining (aka no beach fun) and there's not really anything else to do here.  So I was totally like.  What.  The.  Fuck.  But I also know he's just a nice guy, a gentleman.  So he probably just didn't want to make me drive all the time.  But even so.  Not gonna happen.

We get it sorted.  He was just being nice.  I basically invite myself over to his place for movies.  I show up around 8 baring gifts of popcorn.  Microwave popcorn.  This turns into an intense conversation about how it's actually done.  Do you follow the instructions?  Do you count in your head in between pops?  (I should mention way way back when microwaves first really became the norm.  We got one.  And the first thing we made was popcorn.  Burnt to shit.  Like practically a flame.   So Just Sayin'.  I've been scarred).  The funny thing is.  On the 4th date.  Conversation was a little.  Uh.  I want to say strained.  But not quite strained.  More just like nervous.  Timid.  Very.  Question.  Answer.  Question.  Answer.  Question.  Answer.  This time.  The conversation was much more banter-like.  Ebb and flow.  Back and forth.  Lob and volley.  Nice.

By the way.  This time I dressed more casual.  Cute new jeans and cute hoodie.  He notices.  Says with an approving smile.  Good.  You look much more comfortable this time.  Wait.  Er.  Um.  Did he just call me "comfortable looking"?  And I could freak out.  Like a chick.  But I know that he's just a bit hick town.  And that's cool.  That he's more concerned that I'm feeling comfortable and good.  And I think.  I'm pretty sure he means.  That I looked.  Good.  But I'm just saying.  Bit.  Weird.

So we sit.  He lets me choose the movie.  I've narrowed it to Iron Man and Gran Torino.  He has no preference.  We watch Iron Man.  And for the next 126 minutes.  We sit there.  Like teenagers.  Nervous teenagers.  Teenagers who haven't kissed.  Only we have.  So.  What.  The.  Fuck.  There is no handholding.  There isn't even any touching.  The closest thing is eating out of the same popcorn bowl.  Which I eventually put down on the table.  And then around 100 minutes of no kissing.  I pick it back up.  And start to nibble.  Want me to make some more? he says.  No thanks I smile but I reserve the right to change my mind later.  He smiles.  Don't worry he says.  I was planning to make more for Gran Torino anyways.

Okay.  So let's just tally this a bit.  A whole movie.  No touching.  No kissing.  That seems to indicate a lack of attraction.  But he wants to watch both movies.  Wants to keep me here.  Wants to prolong the hanging out?  That seems to indicate he likes me.  And I mean.  We have hung out every week since we met.  5 weeks.  5 hang outs.  What.  The.  Fuck.  But I mean.  All non-kissing aside.  I'm still having a really good time.  We've been joking a lot.  Laughing a bunch. 

So we watch Gran Torino.  116 minutes later.  STILL no fucking kissing.  Still no fucking touching.  And now it's just the TV playing background noise.  And we're talking.  And then he turns to me and says...

To Be Continued....

Monday, August 16, 2010

A Mix Tape Kind of Love (Broke My Heart as a Favor)

Sometimes a story.  Is just a story.  A moment that takes up more than a couple of moments.  In a life.  But it's worth mentioning.  It has value.  It happened in history.  And it needs to be recorded.  With words.  Or in music.  In a photograph.  In a smile.  A stain on a shirt.  A keepsake.  Sometimes.  Things.  Are just as they are.  Special.  Beautiful.  Broken.  But worth it.  So tell me.  So tell me.  Take my hand.  And I'll tell you.  About the time I went to see Mega Love.  The love of my life.  Broke my heart as a favor.  Changed me.  Changed me.  Set me free to change myself.  That kind of love.  That keeps you together.  For all the right loving reasons.  When none of the practical ones are there.  He loved me.  I loved him.  We were in love.  And now we're not.  Well.  I can't say for certain.  About him.  But I'm not.  I know about that phrase.  I love you, but I'm not IN love with you.  That used to sound so retarded.  But I get it now.  I get it now.  I get it...

But then.  But wait.  So then.  What.  Like, are we doing?  Meeting up in a hotel room.  And I can't really tell you.  Because I don't really know.  But it feels good.  And we both seem to have smiles on our faces.  And we both seem to be okay with how things are.  Things are good.  But things are also heavily coated in white lies by omission.  Because he doesn't know I'm dating.  He doesn't know I'm writing about it.  He doesn't know.  And for all I don't know.  He could be doing the same.  And I think we're both okay with that.  At this moment.  This moment in time.  This moment in our story.  This very moment.

So just because I'm a sucker for details.  For perfection and precision.  Because even if I don't post the second I get home from a date.  I like to keep things in order.  A relatistic representation of what my life is like.  Of what is actually happening.  And I find it fucking hard to keep track.  Of the order.  And I'm the one living it.  So I can't even imagine.  How difficult it must be for you guys.  So here's a quick rundown of what's been happening.

Saturday - Hotel with Mega Love
Tuesday - 3rd Date with Trucker Joe
Friday - 1st Date with Lindsay's Law
Tuesday - 4th Date with Trucker Joe
Friday - Seattle with Mega Love (and this is where we are right now)


I email Mega Love the weekend before I expect to be in Seattle.  I know we hinted at only seeing each other once every six months but also know we said we would tell each other when either one of us is in town.  So this is me.  Telling you.  I'll be in town.  I'm coming down to shop on Friday.  So just wondering if you wanted to meet up at all.  He did.  Want to meet up that is.  Definitely.

So on Friday.  I drive down.  And before I even hit Tulalip.  Fucking red and blue lights.  Flashing all over my ass.  But I think.  Stay calm.  You were speeding afterall.  This IS your fault.  Just be nice.  Accept the ticket.  Suck it up.  And carry on.  That is.  Until I saw the ticket.  And I freaked out.  When I saw the amount 350.  Only wait.  That's the officer's number.  Whew!  But then I see it.  I see the fucking amount they expect me to pay.


Wait for it.


Wait for it.


US $550


Like are you fucking kidding me?!?!?!?!  $225 I'd understand.  $250 I'd get.  But $550?  Don't they know there's a fucking recession on?!?!  Is this even legal (btw according to the legislature [yes I'm that big of a geek] it's not, the max is $250 but looks like I'll have to show up for this...motherfucker).  I mean fuck.  $550.  That's a trip to Vegas.  Here I am not buying new clothes all summer long...sweating it out in long ass jeans that now fall off my ass and shirts that look like parachutes...just to save money till now.  And I've just blown way over my budget before hitting the first store???  Fuck.  Me.

But here's the thing of the thing.  I don't talk about it that much on here.  At least not in specifics.  I reference that I was once "not this happy"?  Not this calm and relaxed.  Not always so breezy.  And I'm not really going to get into it that much more right now either.  But I will say this.  Last summer I took a trip.  I conquered some things.  I changed.  And I've spent the rest of the year really coming in to my own.  Coming in to the happiness that everyone deserves.  And a part of that happiness.  Part of what makes life so different for me now.  Is how I deal with things.  Breezy.  How I react to things.  Accept it.  Solve it.  Proactive.  And happy.  Can't change it.  Then let it go.  Got a solution.  Then make it happen.  But stay calm.  Stay happy.  Life.  Is.  Beautiful.

So that being said.  I pouted for about 5 minutes.  And then carried on my merry way.  I would fight the ticket sure.  And maybe I would lose and have to pay the full amount.  And maybe I wouldn't.  But nothing was going to change at that exact moment.  And crying and ruining my whole day.  Was not the best outcome.  So I didn't.  I just carried on.  Off to the stores I went.  Buying new bras (4 inches smaller around).  And new jeans.  3 sizes smaller.  And a Dereon dress.  In 2x.  When I didn't even used to fit the 3x.  And shopping in the Faith 21 section of Forever XXI.  Like shopping.  In regular people stores.  Pretty fucking brilliant.  And I don't mean like buy a dress.  And squeeze my ass in.  And have jiggly bits all visible and hanging out.  But wearing it anyway.  I mean.  Looking foxy.  In a dress.  That breezily fits.  No bits showing.  No bulges.  All amazing.  All happy.

And then it was time for Mega Love.  And I'm sorry folks.  Because while I'm okay with getting graphic about the "somethings" sometimes.  Mega Love.  Well.  That's just different.  Sorry.  But what I will say is this.  It was good.  We were good.  The neighbors know just exactly how good we were.  But not just the "good" good stuff.  Other stuff was good.  We had a dance party.  He showed me new music.  I showed him new music.  We talked.  We laughed.  We tried to watch the Real World.  It was hot.  It was sweet.  It was beautiful.  And he told me so, You are so beautiful, you look so good, your body....  And the kisses.  Like letting the rain soak you through in Puerto Rico.  The kisses.  Like intertwined fingers under my favorite constellation, Orion.  The kisses.  Like soft quilts in the coldest winter on a king size bed.  The kisses.  The kisses.  Our kisses.

And then it was time to leave.  10:30pm.  Because it was still at least a 2.5 hour drive.  And I wasn't going to spend the night.  That.  Would be playing with fire.  And honestly.  I like my own bed.  Because there's no one else in it.  And I like it that way.  For now.  So we said goodbye.  And I drove off into the night.  Armed with two CDs worth of music.  mp3s that sing our history.  A mix tape kind of love.

The thing is.  I recently lost all my music.  A decade worth of downloads.  And it's not even just the effort it would take to download it all again.  It's simply trying to fucking remember.  Who.  What.  What it was called.  What I even listened to.  What WE listened to.  So he made me some CDs.  One of old songs.  One of new songs.  And I have to say.  No matter what happens with us.  If our love just dissipates into the universe.  If we marry other people.  If we never marry.  If we grow up and marry each other.  And have the little milk chocolate babies we always talked about.  Me naming the first, if it's a boy.  Whatever happens.  In life.  I will always know this.

Mega Love.  Was.  Is.  Will always be.  My Music Soulmate.  Our love wrapped up in a mix tape.  A mix CD.

When I got home, I immediately loaded all the songs onto my ipod.  And the next day.  While going through it at the gym.  I almost cried numerous times.  I laughed at loud.  I was nostalgic.  I was filled with joy.  Every song filled me with OMG I can't believe I forgot about this one! and the memories *sigh* so brilliant.  And even the new songs.  Which I have on repeat.  Like non-stop.  Are amazing.  Are amazing.  Are Amazing.  My soulmate.  My music soulmate.  Tears.  Of.  Sheer.  Happiness.

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Biggest Loser Update: Week 15




Weeks Since the Summer of Boys Began: 15

Total "Somethings" Dated During the Summer of Boys: 5

Total "Somethings" Dated: 7

Total "Pounds" Shed During the Summer of Boys: 34


So it's week 15 now and I'm down 34 lbs.  And I won't lie.  Things are stepping up in the boy department.  For starters.  You'll kindly noticed the increase in the number of "somethings" dated during my summer of boys.  In 2.5 months (may to mid-july) I'd only managed to land 3 dates.  And now.  In the last 3 weeks I've managed to almost double that number?  Just Sayin'.  I think the weightloss is really paying off.  Okay well obviously it's paying off (health, happiness, general awesome sauce) but I mean directly boy/dating/something related. 

Now I know this is online dating.  And fuck.  Disappoints are always abound.  Boys without balls are everywhere.  Action (the act of doing something not messing around per se) is sparse.  So I don't want to get to ahead of myself.  But seriously.  Things are looking up. 

Oh and P Sizzle.  I can't remember my exact waist measurement before I started the summer.  But at the very minimum I've lost 6 inches around my waist (and at biggest guestimate...I've lost 10).  And I'm down 3 sizes.  Three Whole Sizes.  So yeah.  Come on down boys.  Mamma's lookin fly!



Monday, August 9, 2010

Tuesday. Hot. Sticky. Delicious.



Tuesday.  Hot.  Sticky.  Delicious.

Around noon I get a text message.  Almost Home.  It says.  Trucker Joe.  Keeping me appraised of the situation.  I fucking like that.  Like really like that.  I go to the gym.  Gotta get that body tight.  Text Message.   Gives his Address and call when you're leaving and I'll give you directions.  For reference I don't need directions.  I'm pretty smart.  And ya know.  Know how to use google maps.  But I still like it.  Looking out for me.  Gentleman like.  Well played Trucker JoeWell played.  Plus it literally could not be any easier to get to his place.  Main highway.  Turn left on main street.  Right on other big street.  First right.  And park.  I call I'm here.  And he comes out to get me.  Cute.  Gentlemanly. 

I'm wearing black gladiator sandals.  Denim Miniskirt.  White Rocawear-gold-chain-across-the-cleave-did-I-mention-lots-of-cleave-shirt.  Normally this isn't a daytime wear outfit.  But like I've been saying with the weightloss.  Nothing fucking fits anymore.  And with this being the 4th date.  I'm running out of clothes he hasn't seen.  Luckily A. this outfit looks smokin' hot so it'll balance any inappropriateness (though friends have assured me its fine) and B. I'm going shopping on Friday in Seattle so I'll have new stuff soon.  Plus it's fucking hot.  Like temperature.  Muggy.  Sticky.  Hot and Sweaty.  So at least.  That's another excuse.  For a lacking of clothes. 

We get inside the townhouse.  chatter chatter chatter.  And then he makes me sort of a liar.  Because before the date he had asked me what I wanted to eat.  And seriously there are like maybe 3 foods I don't eat.  And what's the chance that when I said, I'm not a picky eater, anything'll be fine that he'd pick one of the three (cilantro, ginger (on its own, I'll eat it if it's mixed in) and baby anything).  Do you like lamb? he says.  Fuck.  lol.  But the thing is.  I'd eat it.  Just to avoid having to say anything.  Because it's not a moral decision or anything.  I just don't really eat it.  He can see this on my face.  We laugh.  Don't worry he says I got chicken too.  Too cute.  I like a guy that is prepared. 

Detour.
So can you barely take it?  I mean can you barely fucking stand it?  All this chatter about food and shit and you're reading and thinking like...get to the fucking good stuff chick!  All in good time.  All in good time *wink*. 

Back on Track.
So we eat dinner.  It's good.  Actually it's really good.  And healthy.  Salad and BBQ.  Yum.  We sit on the couch.  Side by side.  Watching Hell's Kitchen.  We talk about our weekends.  I mention playing video games with TheHell and Hubs and friend.  I really do like video games.  Especially anything Mario related.  But alas.  All his video games are killing related.  ugh. lol.  such a boy.  Plus no lie.  Video games.  Not conducive to laying the mack down.  And man I want him to lay the mack down.

He just got a blu-ray player.  And a stack of discs to match.  Oh and PSizzle.  I forgot to mention his place.  Which is ballin'.  Like seriously.  He is bachelored out.  Just Sayin'.  I know that shit is just superficial and all that.  But still.  This ain't no basement suite.  Dude is rockin' out.  And I like it.  Except the leather couches.  Well technically I love leather couches.  But not in the summer.  Fucking sweaty sticky.  In my mini skirt and chubby thighs.  But then again.  That's why I brought a sweater.  To sit on.  Problem solved.  So like I was saying.  Blu-Ray.  I pick one.  Batman:  The Dark Knight.  Because honestly.  When I saw it before.  In the theatre.  I had a migraine.  So I missed a lot of it. 

It's almost dark outside now.  We turn off the lights.  Watch the movie.  Side by side.  On the couch.  Like fucking teenagers.  Highschool kids.  Like before you'd ever had your first kiss.  Not even touching.  So shy.  The movie is good.  Batman always is.  But I spend a great deal of the movie thinking about.  Well.  Kissing him.  Trucker Joe.  Touching him.  Our skin.  Electric.  Wanting to touch.  Feel someone.  Get passed that moment.  Willing him to.  Make a move.  Make a move.  Make a move.

Time tick tick ticks past.  The movie is good.  But not better than kissing.  I'm so nervous.  I don't know if I'm sweating because it's like a thousand degrees.  Or because I like him.  Want him.  Want to know if he really wants me.  Am hanging on the shirt tails of a moment.  Waiting.  He smells really good.  I excuse myself to go to the bathroom.  And that's when I see it.  His axe deodarant.  Nice.  I knew it.  And I don't care what some people say.  I fucking love it.  Swoon.  And there's his cologne.  I don't know what it is.  Something I've never seen before.  But I'm not about to start examining it.  I know it smells good though.  So so good.  Back downstairs I go.  He paused the movie for me.  So cute.

More moving watching.  More breath holding.  My arm slips down in between us.  sorry I say.  Fuck.  Sorry?  Did I just fucking apologize for touching him.  Ugh.  Loser.  Sigh.  Fuck.  I swear.  In between us.  Is like the slowest moving quicksand in the world.  Slowly pulling our arms.  Our hands.  Closer together.  But it's going so slow that you can barely notice.  My arm slips or I move or something.  Touch again.  And pull away.  Oh my god what am I doing.  Just touch him already.  Just touch me already.  I can barely stand it.  And then.  It happens.  Like that moment when you hold out your finger to a baby.  Just kind of nudge it against it's hands.  And then suddenly.  It latches on.  My fingers.  Dangle.  Next to his skin.  And then.  Latch.  And his hand is wrapped around mine.  Touching.  Touching.  Touching.  We're finally touching. 

I'm not sure hand holding has ever been so sexy.  But it is.  Drool.  Sigh.  Flutter.  The movie plays on.  I think.  I haven't been paying attention in quite awhile.  I may.  MAY.  Have been too busy staring at his hands.  His crotch.  His every movement that might touch me.  Our legs are stretched out onto the coffee table.  I tilt mine up.  His hand touches my thigh.  Electric.  Maybe he says something.  Maybe he just shifts and it draws my attention.  I can't remember.  But I look at him. 

And we kiss.  Soft.  Sweet.  Delicious.  Delicious.  And I won't lie.  It's not perfect.  It's not flawless.  But kissing never is.  Except.  That.  Our kissing.  Becomes flawless.  Because unlike all the other "somethings" he's paying attention.  He adapts to me.  He paces to me.  He learns I like the bottom lip suck.  He learns I like it soft and slow at first.  He senses my tongue.  He matches my lips.  He answers the question about kissing.  It's not a white guy thing.  It's a bad kissing thing.  And he slays it.  It's sexy.  It's sweet.  It's hot.  It's delicious.  He's got normal white boy lips.  But that doesn't matter.  They're soft.  They're skilled.  They're techniquelicious. 

When we finally come up for air.  The credits are rolling.  Movie over.  But not our night.  Because the thing is.  He's got all night shifts this coming week.  So he needs to stay up as late as possible to get his sleep schedule in check.  Oh I'll keep you up Trucker Joe.  I got this.  I got this. 

We pick another movie from the stack.  And for reference.  He's a total guy.  Not that I'm complaining.  Because I like my men to be men.  But I'm Sayin'.  They are all action flicks.  So I pick one.  I've never seen before.  The Hurt Locker.  We watch the movie.  We're taking a breather.  Though our hands are still holding.  Skin still touching.  Hot.  Sticky.  Tuesday.  Delicious.

The movie is.  Okay.  Little bit slow.  About half way through.  I hear his breathing.  Get a bit.  Deeper.  Aww poor baby.  So tired.  He had a really long weekend.  But I gotta do my job.  So I shift a bit.  Razz him a bit.  For sleeping.  Make him smile.  Wake him up.  Back to the movie.  I'm starving.  I've been drinking a ton of water.  But it's not really helping that much.   It's a little after 1am.  I'm seriously hungry.  My stomach is fucking growling.  I tell him.  More out of embarassment (in case he hears it) than out of wanting to eat something.  Oh.  Do you want something to eat.  I have yogurt or special K bars.  Can I just say how cute it is that he pays attention so well to what I say and what's going on with me that he knows to have healthy snacks on board.  I mean seriously.  Golden.  But I turn him down.  Thank him.  I'm going to hold off.  Um.  There's also salad left, might be a bit soggy now *laughs*.

Naw.  I say.  I don't want to have salad breath.  I plan on having some more making out later.  Sexy smile.  He smiles back.  Big smile.  I'm hoping I'm getting points for balls, wit and cuteness.  And then I'm upstairs to the bathroom.  Hopefully he's checking out my bum.  On the walk down.  I catch him staring at the ladies.  Bouncing.  As they tend to do.  Down stairs.  LOL.  When I'm out in public.  And can't hold them down.  That's right baby.  Take a good look.  These ladies are for you. 

We watch more movie.  And then he makes his move again.  And this time.  It starts soft and sweet.  And then moves right into hot and heavy.  sigh.  swoon.  catch my breath.  delicious.  Now normally I wouldn't get into the deets.  But I promised.  To make this one.  A little less kid-friendly.  A little less PG-13.  And I'm going to.  So if this is TMI.  Stop reading now.  But don't get too excited.  It doesn't get X-Rated.   I swear.

Detour.
I like stages.  Because the thing is.  Once you bang.  That's it.  And it's wonderful.  But you can't go back.  You can't go back to just making out.  Or just groping on the couch.  And even if you did.  Even if you were a couple just making out on a couch for one night.  Because you had decided not to go any further.  It wouldn't be the same.  Because you can't unknow things.  You can't unsee each other naked.  You can't get that mystery back.  You can't get that feeling back.  And that's fine.  Because banging.  Is good stuff.  But still.  There's no reason not to savor the stages.  And I like stages.  I like to savor.  So that being said.  With my love for stages.  The fact that I didn't even know FOR SURE that we'd be getting to first base on this date.  And of course.  Lindsay's Law.  I didn't put on the sexy red lacies.  Plus.  I was wearing spandex shorts under my skirt.  Because PSizzle I'm not the best at sitting like a lady.  That and ya know.  I had them pulled like up to my bra.  To keep that tummy tucked.  For as long as possible.  LOL.  Like spanks.  Until it's time to get naked.  Which on this date.  It wasn't yet.  Though I won't lie.  I had the lacies.  In my purse.  Just in case.  I had a change of mind. 

Back on Track.
So like I said.  It's hot and heavy.  His kisses are my kisses.  He tongue moves like my tongue moves.  We're twins.  We're mirrors.  In sync when it's right.  Opposite when it's better.  He tastes like awesome sauce.  He smells like boy and smiles.  I'm melting.  I'm melting.  Swoon.  I'm melting.  He pounces further.  His hand slides up my thigh.  My inner thigh.  I push it away.  I giggle a bit.  I tell him with my eyes.  And a little bit my words.  I like stages.  He gets it.  He's not getting that tonight.  I've got shorts on underneath my skirt I say.  Because I don't want him to think these are some form of granny panties.  And then it just comes out.  I say it.  But I swear it was cute and sexy.  I swear.  When I said it.  It sounded seductive and alluring.  I put cuter panties on for that.  When you're getting some.  You'll know.  I'll have the sexy panties on.  You should have seen his eyes light up. 

But he's fucking flawless.  It doesn't faze.  He is unfazed.  Moves back to outer thigh.  He's happy with what he's getting.  He likes me.   He respects me.  I feel it in his touch.  I taste it in his mouth.  I can feel his heart pounding in his chest.  I.  want.   you you.  I.  want.   you you.  I.  want.   you you.  My heart pounding back.  I can feel it in my lady bits.  Swoon.

I don't really know how to describe what happens next.  Because well.  It's not what I'm normally into.  It strays from my regular fantasies.  It's the oddest thing.  Mostly just odd for me.  I think normal people dig this.  But for me.  For the Summer of Boys.  When I just want my men to be men.  My man to manhandle me.  It's novel.  It's new.  That I liked it.  Just Sayin'.  We're still on the couch.  But he's sort of moved.  To like right in front of me.  But he's close.  And we're still kissing.  And sure enough.  He's copping a feel with one hand.  But it's the other hand.  The one that's sort of behind my head.  That I'm thinking about.  Because it's not all mixed up in the curls.  It's not going in for a tug.  It's not controlling.  It's.  It's.  It's.

Supportive.  Like.  He's got me.  He's just totally got me.  Like I could just let go completely.  And he's got me.  My head in his hands.  Strong.  Man.  Hands.  And it's the sweetest thing.  And sexy too.  Sweet and sexy.  That he's got me.  Wow.  This from a "something" is interesting enough.  But that I like it.  That's a whole other thing. 

And then we're back to hot and heavy.  I figure it's time to start a little exploration of my own.  Especially since no lie.  I really enjoy he's made no attempt to get my hand to certain places.  Boys.  Take note.  In the long run.  You're going to get so much more.  If you don't rush me.  I'm guessing I'm not the only chick this is true for.  Just Sayin'.  So my hand moves.  Down his chest.  Till I hit waistband.  And then I play with it a bit.  Draw a line around this edge.  Then a line that way.  And then down.  Not inside.  I'm keeping to my stages. 

Because I've learned.  That once inside.  It's hand job time.  LOL.  And I'm preserving my stages.  There will none of that tonight.  What he'll pay for in blue balls tonight.  Will be rewarded in the future.  So I move my hand. 

Detour.
I should mention.  That.  Garbage Man was not huge.  Frankly.  Just average.  Intelligence Officer was above average in length but just so so in girth.  Twitter Guy was a total fail all around.  Lindsay's Law was too.  So you can imagine.  Now that I've got this guy.  That I kinda like.  But who's been taking it slow.   I'm worried.  Like really worried.  That he is.  Well.  Going to well.  Disappoint.  And I know size isn't everything and all that.  But still.  I was fucking terrified.  That mother nature would not have bestowed upon him.  The things that I like.  Girth.  Length.  Just Sayin'.  Plus.  Even if size is not an issue.  What if he turns out like Linsday's Law and even when hard.  Is never really.  Hard.

Back on Track.
So like I said.  I move my hand.  Down.  On the outside.  But down.  And my fears.  So.  Definitely.  Unfounded.  There is no need for concern.  I assure you.  I.  Assure.  You.  I practically yelled out touchdown!  Okay well I didn't.  But.  I thought it.  So while he explored my lady lumps.  I watched the trailer.  The preview.  The coming attractions.  I'm saying.  I'm very excited to see this movie.  His Movie.  Like.  I'd stand in line over night.  The movie poster is that good.  Just Sayin'.

This goes on for quite awhile.  But somewhere around 230am we come up for air.  Or more.  I come up for air because if we don't.  I'm pretty sure a bad decision is in the mix.  And by bad.  I don't mean fatal or anything.  But like I said.  I like stages.  I want stages.  I want to go slow with Trucker Joe.  I want to enjoy this.  So I call it a night.  Time for me to go I say.  And he says I'll walk you out.  I think he means.  Like to the door.  But he doesn't.  He means to the car.  Swoon.  This nice guy will definitely not be finishing last with me, Just Sayin'.  He's racking up the points left and right.  He opens my door.  And then.  More kissing.  Sexy in the street kissing.  Can't wait till next time kissing.  Okay well just gimme a call I say.  He waits.  Makes sure the car starts.  Makes sure I get off okay.  I do.  And I spend the whole drive home.  Beaming.  Giddy.  Beaming.  Swooning.  Awesome Saucing.

Sunday, August 8, 2010

Lindsay's Law (Part Two): A New Rule

Continued From Lindsay's Law (Part One): A New "Something"



House Date Tally

Points Awarded For: letting me cheat at pool (moves ball four inches left), being sociable, seeming fun, did I mention the pool?

Points Deducted For: neglecting to mention that the cue holder had a glitch and if you put it in that spot....*pool cue smacks me in the face and smears blue chalk across cheek and lip* fucking awesome!...drinking (yes I encourage drinking, but remember kids, it's a first date, AND I'm not drinking, Just Sayin').

We play 4 or 5 games of pool. I win several. Though it becomes clear he was taking it easy on me. So that's fun. We decide to watch movie. He decides to get stizzled. Which was super lame when TEDski did it, no lie. But I'm not so bothered by it. Yet.

So I know you're thinking, SSD, What. The. Fuck. Are. You. Doing With. This. Dude? But. Well. I was having fun. At that point. We watched Wedding Crashers. Yes I've seen it before. Yes it was funnier than ever before. Yes I may have gotten stizzled too (don't judge :P). And quite honestly. It was kind of like a depressurizer. Like a practice date. Kind of thing. Er. Um. Ok. No good excuse really. Plus it gets worse. So much worse.

We make out. I know. *Shakes head* Fuck. lol. I know. But I digress. So we make out. It's not great. He's kind of swallowing my face. Occasionally there's redemption. But rarely. And I keep thinking. Soon. Soon. He'll see, feel, whatever. The pace. The rate. The motion. The pressure. The area. That I'm kissing like. And he'll adapt. He'll adjust. He'll get good.

But he doesn't. Fucking Adolescent.

And yet. Somehow this genius. Corralled me into his bedroom. Which no joke. Had a stuffed South Park character on the bed. And lacrosse medals from his youth on a dresser. And yet. It's like his retardation had magical powers. Because before you know it. I was thinking. Sure. Sex? Why not.

Only. Only. Only. His penis is. Well. Small. Like Twitter Guy small. And well. Another new fresh experience. To me at least. A penis that though hard. Isn't like. Rock hard. Just like. Mostly hard. I mean what the fuck? At first I assume. It just needs some help along. And so I help it. But nothing changes. Until well. It changes. I mean fuck. You can't get rock hard? And then you're going to shoot early like a teenager?




So we get dressed. There's all kinds of bullshit about being so relaxed...and how great [I am] and blah blah blah. The irony is it wasn't even my best work. Not by a long shot. Oh. And another final slice of awesome pie. We all know I like a bit of hair-pulling and aggression. And no joke. When I kind of slid his hand to my head. To make that known. To make the gesture. He just started rubbing my head. I mean fuck. Are You Retarded? Now you're definitely not turning me on. You're just fucking frizzing up my curls son! He says something about watching the rest of the movie and we'll do it after a quick rest. I know this is bullshit but I can't think of an excuse without saying bullshit! so I watch the rest of the movie. At some point he takes the last sip of his drink. Which. If I wasn't so high I'd have sworn that he had ashed into earlier and I'm thinking did you just fucking swallow the roach and then not even notice? Fuck Me. I'd be pissing myself with laughter if I didn't have some pink balls going on.

Then he says. The fucking. Magic golden words. So uh...would you be upset...if we just called it a night...blah blah blah...I'm so relaxed...and long day...and blah blah blah noise noise noise. No biggie I said. I'd love to see you again he said. I'm sure you would, ass wipe, but I'm thinking not only was this a shit date. You're a shit lover. Yeah I said lover :P don't judge me. I don't know is what I actually said. Because I really didn't. Maybe this was just a case of a kid getting carried away. I mean I did have fun earlier on in the date.  But then again he lied about his height.  And fuck I really hate that, plus don't want the dishonesty of height to be rewarded.  Plus maybe he was a really shitty lover and not only would never be able to do the things I like and act in a manner that turns me on...but honestly...he kissed for shit and had a small weenie. Just Sayin'. He was clearly a little upset. Not my problem. I would consider it. He said, okay well I guess just call me... and then I cut him off uh no...you can call me I said, and I'll let you know if you've earned a second chance, I thought.

Threw up the dueces. And I was out. To think I put on cute undies for this dipshit.  Mother. Fucker. Unbelieveable. But at least. I don't have to worry. About not having funny ridiculous things to blog about. Because I mean Fuck. This shit. I just dive right into it.  It's fucking everywhere.  Surrounded.


Lindsay's Law

So now onto the rest of his nickname. Lindsay's Law.  Everybody in the world I'm sure has seen the movie Cocktail.  With Tom Cruise.  And in that movie there's a fella.  Named Doug Coughlin.  And he has these little rules.  For life.  Guidelines per se.  And he calls them Coughlin's Law.  So that.  Is sort of like this.  Or more correctly.  This is like that.

Lindsay's Law.  A guideline.  Based on this experience with Lindsay.  Or perhaps you could even say.  The lack of experience.  Because technically.  Technically.  I didn't have sex.  With Lindsay's Law.  On the one hand you could say he's ruining things for all other boys to follow. On the other hand. I'm grateful because I learned something really valuable. And that something will henceforth be enforced under "Lindsay's Law"



Lindsay's Law.  A law prohibiting any action (by SSDated and complicit "Something's") beyond kissing and some harmless over the bra action on the first date.  [Additional Information]  This law will act in preventing future nakedness with boys who turn out to be undeserving. This law is to be recognized in dating situations and is not subject to the "One Night Stand aka Intelligence Officers of the World" carrying's on, as though fall under the total slutdamonium addendum. 




Friday, August 6, 2010

Lindsay's Law (Part One): A New "Something"

"What if things work out with Trucker Joe, at least for a little while I mean.  And I don't go on any more bad dates aka things become serious and boring rather than hilarious and awesome saucy?" - SSD


Those words.  Not necessary.  I mean who am I kidding.  There is more than enough ridiculous hilarity to go around that I'm certain it won't stop landing at my feet.  And no sooner had I verbalized this notion, than the next day I was exiting a hotel room and running smack into a lurker.  But even then.  I wasn't completely convinced.  Would there be enough ridiculousness to keep the blog entertaining?  Turns out.  Most certainly.  And even if the actual situations in my life don't open themselves to hilarity.  I'm bound to do something ridiculous on my own to really push that situation to the max.  Squeezing every last drop of misteps and malfunction into my totally full glass.  So let's all drink to that!

As I'm sure you can infer from the title of this post, there's a new "Something" on the block.  His psuedonym needs a two part explanation.  Part before the date.  And the rest after *no spoilers*.  So the first part.  Lindsay.  Oh Jesus.

Detour.

Parents.  I'm begging you.  Stop naming your boys with girls names.  You can try and act like the names are just really classic and that historically they belonged to strong men.  But cut the shit.  If you called your little boy Daisy.  I don't care what story you have to back it up.  True or not.  On the off chance he doesn't murder you just to establish his overtly aggressive manhood.  He'll spend his entire life trying to not be considered a pansy.  Seriously.  No chick wants to be yelling out, Oh Sally Oh Sally...unless of course, she's Sally's lovely lesbian lover.  Which I am not.

Back on Track.

So that being said.  Lindsay's Law.  Has a girly name.  A name that is the same as numerous chicks I know.  It's not actually Lindsay (or Kelly, Kelsey, Darcy, Jamie, Ashley, Lesley or Courtney) but it's in the same field.  I know it's not his fault.  And honestly it's not that huge of a deal.  But frankly it just fit.  So now.  Onto our tale of this new fella.  The Law part will get explained later.  If you can bare it.

So he hits me up on POF.  Obviously.  We message back and forth.  Pretty quick.  He apologizes if it's too forward but asks for my phone number.  I like forward I tell him.  We text.  We make some plans.  For Friday night.  Good I think.  For two reasons.  One.  Uh...hello...it's a date?!?  And Two.  Takes pressure off the excitement of waiting for date number 4 with Trucker Joe.


Pre-Date Tally

Points Awarded For:  He just moved to a town 15 minutes away.  He's 6'0.  Some of his pics are super cute (some are just alright).  He seems fun.  Let's give it a go.

Points Deducted For:  None before the date.  But man.  They pile up.  A little bit at first.  Than it's bad to worse in a matter of minutes.  And yet.  I partly blame myself.  But you'll see.  So here we go.



So we meet for coffee.  In that town.  15 minutes away.  I'm a little bit uncomfortable.  This being my area and all.  I don't want to run into someone I know.  I don't want him to turn out to be someone I know.  Luckily he's 2 years younger, so the latter seems unlikely.  I park.  There's a guy.  That could be him.  Walking to his truck.  Only.  Hmm...he doesn't look 6'0. 

Don't be him...don't be him...don't be him.  I pick up my cell to text him.  I was hoping to run into the grocery to grab some gum first.  And then my phone is ringing.  And guy in truck is on a phone.  Hello? Hey It's Lindsay.  Fuck.  Yeah I know...I can see you.  Wave.

So I get out.  Definitely not 6'0.  I mean.   what.  the.  fuck.  Seriously!?!?!?!  When are these boys going to fucking learn.  Don't lie to me.  It just pisses me off.  And the thing is.  I'd date a guy.  Who was 5'10.  At 5'7, that's still 3 inches taller.  But when you lie about it.  I think the following (none look good on you, boys)

A.  You're a douche

B.  You are retarded (I get trying to fudge a few inches on someone say 5'0 or something but I'm 5'7, so fuck, don't you think I'll notice when our eyes are basically at the same level?)

C.  You're a jackass (Um...are you seriously trying to "trick" me or "pull something over" on me? really? reeeally?)

D.  You're a pansy (take what you got an own it, nothing's weaker than lying about yourself for the appearance of seeming...taller? hotter? better? I don't even know...lame)

So to sum up.  Boys that lie about their height = pansy ass retarded douchey jackasses.  Just Sayin'.

But fuck.  Whatever.  Let's press on.  So we got coffee.  (lesson #1 of this date.  In future.  I can avoid the awkward do I pay or does he pay should I reach and offer scenario by simply letting him order first.  If I order first, then it's all like, is this together? er..um..awkward.  If he orders first then it's simply turn to me and I order and then he pays.  Simple.  Golden.  Score.)

We go for a walk.  On the dike.  The bugs are fucking everywhere.  The conversation is pretty good.  Just average shit but enjoyable.  But he walks too fast.  He'd previously mentioned he has a pool table and his roomie is away for the weekend (they rent a house).  At this point I figure I could A. take him and/or B. this is small town business, he grew up here, so I'm not worried so much about being murdered.  And fuck.  The damn bugs.  So we leave and go back to his place to play pool.


Pre-House Date Tally

Points Awarded For:  truck, paying for coffee, having date ideas, good convo, and pool table (we all know I love to shoot pool). 

Points Deducted For: lying about his height, I don't like his jeans, I hate people who speed walk in non-cardio workout situations


To Be Continued...In Part Two Lindsay's Law (Part Two): A New Rule